Wednesday, November 10, 2010

What happened to "To Each his Own"??

What am I about to write is my opinion, which I have a right to. If you don't agree with me thats fine, and feel free to state so, but lets be adults and play nice.

Ok so if your on Facebook you've probably heard about the "Cloth Diaper Wars" that have been swarming the net. It started out with a short segment on CBS. If you haven't seen the video, go here. When I watched it I was shocked. I do think it was not very informative at all, or not correctly informative I guess. They had gerber prefolds as examples of modern cloth diapers lol.

So the cloth diaper community spoke up and complained! And the host, Natali Del Conte-Morris listened to the complaints and accepted a challenge to cloth diaper for 30 days! How cool is that! But from what I have read and heard, these comments from the cloth diapering community were not the nicest. Her husband does a podcast called Daddy On Board when he shares his experiences as a dad and he basically said she was bombarded by the cloth diaper community and his co-host even went as far as to call us Cloth Diaper Nazis!!

Now I think the nazi thing was a bit harsh, but I am not suprised one bit that some of these comments were not so nice. I know how moms can get! We can me mean!! We are all about our own little way of doing things and that is the right way and everyone else is wrong! You know what I'm talking about. We go haywire over these debates of cloth vs disposable, breastfeeding vs formula feeding, rear-facing vs forward-facing. We do it..all of us...including myself. So yes, I completely believe that this community I consider myself a part of said some mean things to that lady and I am ashamed!

What ever happened to "to each his own"? Why are we so worried about what other moms do that we have to say mean things to each other just to share how we do things? Yes, the segment sucked, but there are plenty of ways we can say that without being mean! I mean heck, give the girl major props for giving cding a try!! I know plenty of people who won't even consider it! It just bugs me to no end that moms (not all, but a lot) feel like they have to be mean and force their opinions on others. I cloth diaper and love it! But did ya'll know Noah was in disposables until he was 7 months old? And he's ok! I have friends who use disposables, and their babies are just fine too! Yes, cloth is great and yes it is better for the environment and baby, but its not going to work for everybody. It just isn't.

I just wish we could all be nice and let people do their thing. As long as a parent isn't neglecting their child or putting them in fatal harm I say we mind our own business (I know some of you will argue putting a baby in sposies is harm but you know what I'm saying). If someone asks me about cloth I LOVE to tell them about it, but I don't push it on my friends who use sposies and I am definately not mean to them because they do! So yea, thats my little rant for the day. We're all just doing the best we can as parents, and putting your kiddo in sposies doesn't make you a bad parent. I just wish we could all play nice and mind our own business when we need to.

** Here's the link to Natali's blog where she shares her cloth diapering challenge if your interested.


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  2. Very well said. I totally agree that CDing is not for everyone, so is BFing. I'm not doing both and it is not because I didn't want to but because I couldn't due to personal and medical reasons. You are right, some moms and dads should just mind their own business. When people tell me that BFing is the best and insinuate Formula Feeding is not, I feel bad and I take it personally. How can they be so mean right? They have no idea what I've been through so when they try to "educate" me about the benefits and wonders of BFing, the truth is, I ALREADY KNOW! Stop making me feel inadequate because my body couldn't handle it, and stop making me feel like a bad mom, you have no idea how much I tried!

  3. Opps, sorry for I ended up semi-venting here. lol.

  4. I left a comment on Natali Del Conte-Morris post yesterday saying pretty much the same thing as you just did. I understand that mom's feel that they are doing important things that are the best for their children and the environment, but this does not excuse the bad behavior shown.
    I cloth diaper and I love it. My first child was diapered in disposables and if I had been treated the way Natali Del Conte-Morris had I might never have given cloth a real try.

  5. I love this post! It's so true, as moms sometimes we can be...pushy. We've just got to remember that all the other good moms and dads out there have thought about this stuff too.

    Rather than giving these other parents a hard time, we should be cutting them some slack. We all have to make the big parenting decisions for ourselves and our own kids. And at the end of the day, whether we cloth diaper or use disposables, we're all pretty good parents.


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